Exploring sex toys can be a fun and empowering way to enhance your sexual experiences, whether you’re single or have a partner. This guide offers a starting point for gay men curious about incorporating sex toys into their intimate life.
Understanding Your Anatomy and Preferences
Before diving into specific toys, it's essential to understand your own anatomy and what type of stimulation you enjoy. Some common areas of focus for gay men include:
- Penis: Stimulation can involve the glans, shaft, and scrotum.
- Anus: This area is rich in nerve endings and can provide intense pleasure.
- Perineum (taint): This area between the anus and scrotum is also highly sensitive.
Consider what kind of sensations you enjoy most – vibration, pressure, temperature play, or penetration – to help guide your choices.
Types of Sex Toys for Gay Men
Here are some popular types of sex toys often used by gay men:
Vibrators: These come in various shapes and sizes, from small bullet vibrators for targeted stimulation to larger wands for broader contact. Some are designed for external use on the penis, scrotum, or perineum, while others are designed for anal play.
Dildos: These are typically used for penetration, either anally or sometimes for masturbation. They come in different sizes, shapes, and materials. Some have textured surfaces or vibrating features.
Anal Plugs: These are designed for insertion into the anus and come in various sizes and materials. They can offer a feeling of fullness and pressure. Some vibrate for added stimulation.
Anal Beads: These are a string of beads designed for anal insertion and retrieval. They can provide a unique sensation of sliding and pressure.
Cock Rings: These are worn around the base of the penis and sometimes the scrotum to restrict blood flow, leading to firmer erections and prolonged pleasure.
Strokers/Masturbators: These are designed for manual stimulation of the penis. Some are shaped like a vagina or anus and can provide a more realistic sensation.
Choosing the Right Material
The material of your sex toy is crucial for comfort, safety, and hygiene:
Silicone: This is a popular choice due to its smooth, non-porous surface, hypoallergenic properties, and easy cleaning. Medical-grade silicone is the safest option.
Glass: This material is non-porous, easy to sanitise, and offers a unique sensation of temperature play (it can be warmed or cooled). Choose tempered glass for safety.
Metal: Stainless steel is a durable, non-porous, and easy-to-clean option.
ABS Plastic: This is often used in vibrators and is non-porous.
Avoid toys made from jelly rubber, PVC, or TPR, as these can be porous and harbour bacteria.
Safety and Hygiene
Always clean your toys before and after each use with warm water and mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner.
- Dry your toys thoroughly before storing them.
- Store toys separately in a clean, dry place, ideally in a pouch or case.
- Use a high-quality lubricant designed for sex toys. Water-based lubricants are generally recommended for silicone toys. Avoid using silicone-based lubricants with silicone toys.
- If you experience any discomfort or irritation, stop using the toy and consult a medical professional if necessary.
Exploring with a Partner
Introducing sex toys into partnered sex can be a great way to enhance intimacy and explore new sensations. Open communication is key:
- Discuss your interests and boundaries with your partner.
- Start with something simple and less intimidating.
- Consider using toys together for a shared experience.
Where to Buy Sex Toys
Here are some questions to consider when buying sex toys:
What's a good starting point for a beginner? A small, simple bullet vibrator or a smooth silicone anal plug are good options.
Are sex toys safe to use? Yes, if you choose body-safe materials, practise good hygiene, and use them responsibly.
How do I clean my toys? Use warm water and mild soap or a specialised toy cleaner before and after each use.
What type of lubricant should I use? Water-based lubricants are generally recommended for silicone toys.
Can I use sex toys anally? Yes, many toys are specifically designed for anal play. Start slowly and use plenty of lubricant.
What are anal beads? They are a string of beads designed for anal insertion and retrieval, providing a unique sensation.
What is a cock ring for? It's worn around the base of the penis (and sometimes scrotum) to restrict blood flow for firmer erections.
Where can I buy sex toys discreetly? Many online retailers offer discreet packaging.
What if a toy is uncomfortable? Stop using it immediately. Discomfort is a sign it's not right for you.
Can I share toys with a partner? Yes, but ensure you clean them thoroughly before and after each use.